5 early signs that your child is struggling at school

​If your tamariki are struggling at school it may be hard for them to talk about it, especially if they get easily embarrassed or are anxious.  

However, it’s important to keep on top of things. Teachers need to cover all of the prescribed curriculum and classes will carry on whether or not your child is coping.

​If you suspect that your child may be struggling in class, don’t wait for their report card.  Here are 5 signs that are early indicators your child is struggling to keep up at school.

You notice a change in attitude about school

This is one of the biggest signs that something is not going well at school. A change in attitude about school can take on a few different forms:

• No longer wanting to talk about what they are learning or how their day went
• Making excuses to not go to school
• Getting upset or anxious on Sunday evening or in the mornings before school
• Getting angry or upset whenever you bring up school

I’m bored!​

​Often, kids will complain about being bored if they don’t understand what they are learning at school.  Many parents think that being bored is a sign that their child isn’t being challenged at school when in fact it’s the complete opposite. 

Saying “I’m bored” is easier than admitting that they don’t understand or are confused.

Spending excessive amounts of time on homework

​Does your tamariki seem to spend a lot of time outside of school doing homework? 

​This could be a sign that your child is struggling with either the workload or the topics they are learning about. While homework varies between schools and teachers, your child needs time away from the books to unwind and pursue other interests.

​Most of us need to put in a bit of hard work to achieve good results. However, if your child is spending every night or all weekend playing catch up, chances are there is an underlying issue that needs to be addressed.

Complaints about pain or problems sleeping

​Many children suffer from physical symptoms when they are stressed or anxious.  This could include headaches, stomach aches, nausea or disruptions to their usual sleep or eating habits.

​Children and teenagers don’t always have the knowledge or understanding to process their feelings when they are under pressure or upset. This can lead to their bodies expressing their stress or anxiety as a physical ailment.

Getting in trouble at school

​Similar to complaining about being bored, sometimes, both children and teenagers find it easier to act out than to admit they are struggling.

​If your previously well-behaved child suddenly starts getting in trouble, make sure that you take into account everything that is happening at school. This includes friendships, social skills and how they are coping with their workload.

What can you do to help?

Whenever your tamariki are having problems, the best thing you can do is be patient, kind, understanding and empathetic. As anyone with a teen or tween knows, getting your child to open up to you can be hard. If your attempts at conversation are constantly shut down, try some of the tips in Kidz Therapy’s recent article 7 tips to make communicating with your teenager easier.  

​Next, talk to your child’s Classroom or Form Teacher. They are the person who will have the best overview of how your child is coping in class and whether there are any particular areas of concern. 

​They are also the best person for you to work with on any potential solutions. Schools want their students to do well and are used to dealing with many different types of learners. There could be some easy, practical steps that can be put in place to help improve your child’s school experience.

Finally, if you still feel that something is not quite right, you and your child may need professional help. Get in touch with us to find out how we can help. KTL Tuition Founder Marie Kelly is an Educational Psychologist and former teacher. Marie and our team of tutors have the knowledge and expertise to ensure your child reaches their full academic potential.

Kidz Therapy, our parent company also has a range of specialists who can help with your child’s educational journey including:

• Educational Psychology Assessments. Kidz Therapy Educational Psychologists can assess whether your child has a learning difference or meets the criteria for Special Assessment Conditions.
• Education Advocacy. Education Advisor Karen Blackall can provide advice, guidance, support and practical strategies to help you and your child successfully navigate the New Zealand education system.
• Child, teenager, parent & family therapy. Psychologists, psychotherapists and counsellors who can offer guidance and support for anxiety, stress and school related behavioural challenges.